7 Women Reveal How a Relationship Changes After Having Kids

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Private things. These admissions are usually told to me in a whisper, because women inevitably feel self-conscious and ashamed. Before our daughter Sylvie was born in the spring ofmy husband, Tom, and I almost never fought. After we became parents, we battled all the time. I made jokes about our squabbling to friends and family, but I never disclosed the truth about how heated it became. I called him terrible names and threatened divorce. My social media feed only made me feel worse. Every birth announcement featured a giggly baby and serenely smiling parents.

Their stories were typical of research I have been conducting on dual-career couples. One had just been given a huge promotion opportunity in another countryside, but had struggled for several months to get her spouse to accede to join her. Another had absolute that to save her marriage, she would take a yearlong sabbatical after that go back to school, giving the family some balance and a break from two high-powered jobs. A third had tried to work part-time designed for her law firm but quickly realized she was being professionally sidelined. She opted for a doctorate instead. Her husband continued his career.

Women's Health may earn commission from the links on this page, but we only feature products we believe all the rage. Why trust us? You're only being. But what if you honestly felt that way? What if some amount of you—a small fraction or constant a really substantial one—actually hates your husband or partner? As it turns out, hating your spouse isn't at the same time as uncommon as you might think. All but everyone has times when they air something like hate toward their affiliate, says Jane Greer, PhD, a marriage ceremony and family therapist in New York City. In her book, What A propos Me? Without those moments, your affiliation is like a sunburn with denial aloe, she says.