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I had a vague notion of how some lesbian and gay Christians had reconciled their sexuality and their faith, but their stories never completely spoke to mine. How could a lesbian or gay Christian discuss the decision to come out as bi and open themselves to censure despite being in or pursuing only seemingly straight relationships? How could their stories answer my questions about whether or not being attracted to more than one gender was inherently incompatible with being a Christian? In the three years since I first came out, I have been exposed to a lot more lesbian and gay Christian stories; but I still find it difficult to discover bisexual Christian ones. While there are many solid generic bisexual resources online and a good number of LG-focused Christian ones, the resources for bisexual Christians are limited. This means that the concerns that affect bisexuals are often not answered even in affirming Christian communities. With that in mind, here are five things I wish someone had told me about being a bi Christian when I first came out.

I know the answer people expect me to say. I love this individual person for who they are, after that they're enough to make me air happy and complete. It doesn't affair what's between someone's legs. It's barely their personality that matters.

But, when I am physically intimate along with a man I find it arduous, if not impossible, to maintain an erection. When people are grappling along with such questions, what they are actually comparing is not so much the qualitatively different sexual experiences, but considerably who they experience themselves to be in the context of their relationships with people of different genders. Although you do not have to accomplish a choice — not now after that not ever. You accept that you are bisexualso you can fairly at ease decide to have relationships with ancestor of either or both genders. After that you will discover that in a longer-term monogamous relationship if you absence that at any point it is the particular person and how he or she makes you feel after you are together that is central — not their gender. There be able to be reasons for feeling safer along with one gender v another, so exploring your childhood feelings about maternal v paternal connections may give you a few helpful information limited, though, since fathers and mothers do not necessarily afford traditional gender-based care. You seem en route for be concerned about your future, after that consider monogamy a goal, with individual person of one gender. But around are people out there who be able to manage long-term triangular relationships — all the rage fact, some actively seek triads. Accompany if you are one of them.